Whether it’s flexible remote jobs for moms or in-office occupations with more rigid schedules, working moms have it tough when it comes to managing family obligations and work responsibilities.
That’s not to say, however, that it cannot be done. Let’s explore some effective ways in which working moms can find balance in an ever-demanding world.
Moms in the Workforce
According to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics (BLS), the labor force participation rate for all mothers, married and unmarried, of children 18 and younger was 74% in 2023. That’s a lot of moms who must be attentive to both their families and their job duties.
Unfortunately, many working moms feel that they are falling short when it comes to this balance. In July 2023, the New York Times reported that nearly 80% of working moms felt anxiety when it came to feeling perfect in this area.
The good news is that a work-life balance for working moms is not a myth, nor is it an unattainable goal. By employing some time management skills, getting organized, and letting go of any guilty feeling that might result from not spending every waking moment with their children, moms can do what they always do best: make it work.
Working Moms: Mastering the Balance Act
Working moms is not a new concept. Married and unmarried mothers began entering the workforce at a then-unprecedented rate between 1970 and 1980 and it’s steadily increased since then.
Somewhere, somehow, a balance must be struck between work life and mom life. As tough as it seems, this is a balance that can be found.
This is by no means meant to be a strict guideline, nor a set-in-stone manual for working moms. Following are ideas and suggestions that moms can apply and see if they work for them. Some may, some may not. But these are a good place to start when it comes to finding a balance for working moms:
1. Let Go of Guilt
This is one that working moms may struggle with, but it might be the most important when it comes to finding that elusive balance.
Moms should constantly remind themselves why they are working, to contribute to the well-being of the family. To strike a balance, moms must understand that not being there for every ball game or dance recital is not catastrophic, and that missing a half-day at work to attend to their children is not career-threatening.
2. Find Some ‘Me’ Time
Once a working mom can feel less guilty about being away from their children for professional obligations, they should also not feel guilty about taking some along time to recharge and regroup.
Even a 15-minute bath or twenty minutes behind closed doors reading a good book could be enough self-pampering. Moms can also take a day off every couple of months or sleep in on a Sunday morning. Whatever gets your batteries re-charged, do it.
3. Learn to Say No
Whether it’s taking on an extra project at work or being asked to serve as a PTA leader, it’s okay to turn down requests for your time. Split responsibilities with a spouse, have older kids pitch in with household chores, and take turns car-pooling the neighborhood kids to school with other moms on the street.
There is no weakness or shame in asking for help. This doesn’t mean that you’ve failed as a mom, it simply means you’re overwhelmed and need help in finding that precious work/life balance.
4. Keep a To-Do List
Being organized is a big part of finding balance. It helps to keep a running list of things to do, both for work and for the family.
It’s mentally satisfying to check off things on a to-do list. You’ll feel accomplished and be more focused on what’s important. Having a list also helps to prioritize responsibilities and plan your day so things won’t seem as hectic and disorganized each day.
5. Find Quality Childcare
Knowing that your kids are well-cared for is a huge weight off your shoulders and is crucial for that work-life balance you’re seeking. Do extensive research of day care centers in your area. Find nannies or babysitters with several references.
Being able to be more relaxed and focused at work with your children in a good place will make you less stressed at the end of the day. You’ll be able to spend more quality time with the family after work. Many studies show that it’s the quality, and not the quantity, of time you spend with kids.
6. Network with Other Working Moms
There is strength in numbers, and in knowing that others are having the same struggles. Join an online or in-person support group. Get ideas from other moms and see what works for others that just might work for you.
You might also consider working with a life coach. These professionals specialize in setting goals, creating strategies to overcome obstacles, and recognizing what areas you need to concentrate on to achieve a work-life balance.
Written by Tina Morris of Resumecoach.com
